The rearing and educating of our children is the most
important contribution we can make toward human development. Wise parents
who are desirous of giving the child all advantages commence before the
birth of the child, even before the conception, prayerfully to turn
their thoughts toward the task they are undertaking. They are careful to
see that the union which is to bring about the germination takes place
under the proper stellar influences, when the Moon is passing through
signs which are appropriate to the building of a strong and healthy body.
Of course they have their own bodies in the best possible physical, moral,
and mental condition.
Then, during the period of gestation, they hold before
their mind's eye constantly the ideal of a strong, useful life for the
incoming entity, and as soon as possible after birth has taken place they
cast the horoscope of the child, for the ideal parent is also an
astrologer. If the parents have not the ability to cast the horoscope
themselves, they at least can study the stellar signs that will enable
them intelligently to understand what the astrologer tells them. From the
child's natal chart the strength and weaknesses of its character readily
can be seen. The parents will then be in the best position possible to
foster the good and take appropriate means to transmute the weaknesses
before the tendencies work themselves out into actualities. Thus they may,
in a large measure, help the incoming entity to overcome his faults.
When we look at Spirit as being eternal and at each Earth
life as being an event in time, the different phases of our existence will
fall into their rightful place. Pondering on Sir Edwin Arnold's words:
"Never the Spirit was born, the Spirit shall cease to be never; never was
time it was not," will give us a real perception of the fleeting nature
of time as against the constancy of God. Perhaps this realization can aid
us in understanding these who are in the difficult phase of growing up.
The First Breath
The record of a person's physical life on Earth is started
when the baby draws its first breath and continues until the last breath
is drawn. "When the child takes his first complete breath the
physiological conditions in the heart are changed, the foramen ovale is
closed, and the blood is forced to circulate through the heart and lungs."
By the contact of the blood with the air in the lungs it is able to absorb
a picture of its surroundings. The blood is the vehicle of the Ego, and
when it rushes through the heart it leaves an imprint on the seed atom of
the heart which is located in its left ventricle. Upon this infinitesimal
surface are printed all the pictures of the outside world during the
person's whole life-time.
Four "Births"
The parent must realize that what we term birth is only
the birth of the visible, physical body, which is born and comes to its
present high stage of efficiency in a shorter time than do the invisible
vehicles of man, because it has had the longest evolution. As the fetus is
shielded from the impacts of the visible world by being encased in the
protecting womb of the mother during the period of gestation, so also the
subtler vehicles are encased in envelopes of ether and desire stuff which
protect them until they have matured sufficiently and are able to
withstand the conditions of the outer world.
The vital body is born at about the age of seven, or the
time when the child cuts its second teeth, and the desire body is born at
about fourteen, or the time of puberty. The mind comes to birth at about
twenty-one, when we say a man has reached majority.
There are certain important matters which can be taken
care of only during the appropriate period of growth, and the parent
should know what these are. Though the organs have been formed by the time
the child comes to birth, the lines of growth are determined during the
first seven years, and if they are not outlined properly during that time,
an otherwise healthy child may become a sickly man or woman.
The First Septenary Period
As occult students, we learn that in the first seven years
of a child's life, only the negative poles of all the ethers in the vital
body are active. Therefore the faculties of seeing and hearing, which
depend upon the negative forces of the Light Ether, make the child "all
eyes and ears." It is extremely helpful to the infant's growth if the
parents pay attention to the colors surrounding the child and even more
important, if they pay attention to the sound and rhythm within the
child's hearing. This holds good throughout the first seven years of the
child's life.
In the first chapter of St. John, we read: "In the beginning was the word . . . And without it was not anything made that was
made . . . and the word became flesh." The word is a rhythmic sound, and
sound is the great cosmic builder. Therefore during the first septenary
epoch of its life the child should be surrounded by music of the right
kind, by musical language: the swing and rhythm of nursery rhymes are
particularly valuable. It does not matter about the sense at all; what
matters is the rhythm, the more the child has of that, the healthier it
will grow.
Two great watchwords apply to this period of a child's
life: imitation and example. There is no creature in the
world so imitative as a little child; it follows example to the smallest
detail in so far as it is able. Therefore, the parents who seek to bring
up their child well will be careful when in the presence of the little
one: It is no use to teach it to mind; the child has no mind, it has no
reason, it can only imitate, and it cannot help imitating any more than
water can help running downhill. If we have one kind of food for ourselves
which is highly seasoned perhaps, and we give the child another dish,
telling it that what we eat is not good for it, the child may not then be
able to imitate us, but we implant the appetite for such food in the
little one. When it grows up and can gratify its taste, it will do so.
Therefore, the careful parents should abstain from the foods and liquors
of which they do not wish their child to partake.
Regarding clothing, we may say that at that time the child
should be entirely unconscious of its sex organs, and therefore the
clothing should be particularly loose at all times. This is specially
necessary with little boys, for oftentimes a most seriously bad habit in
later life may result from the rubbing of too tight clothing.
Punishment
There is also the question of punishment to be considered;
that too is an important factor at all times in awakening the sex nature
and should be carefully avoided. There is no child so refractory that it
will not respond to the method of reward for good deeds and the
withholding of privileges as retribution for disobedience. Besides, we
recognize the fact that whipping breaks the spirit of a dog, and we
complain that certain people have cultivated a wishbone instead of a
backbone-that they are lacking in will. Much of that is due to whippings,
mercilessly administered in childhood. Let any parent look at this from
the child's standpoint. How would any of us now like to live with someone
from whose authority we could not escape, who was much bigger than we, and
have to submit to whippings day by day? Leave the whipping alone and much
of the social evil will be done away with in a generation.
Birth of the Vital Body
At seven years of age the vital body is brought to birth,
and now perception and memory will play their fundamental parts. In this
seven-year period, the child is unbiased and without preconceived ideas.
Therefore he is more teachable at this period than at any other time. He
has faith in his parents and in his teachers and will follow their
authority.
When the vital body has been brought to birth in the
seventh year, the faculties of perception and memory are to be educated.
The watchwords for this period should be authority and
discipleship. We should not, if we have a precocious child, seek to
goad it into a course of study which requires an enormous expenditure of
thought. Child prodigies usually have become men and women of less than
ordinary mentality. The child should be allowed to follow his own
inclination in that respect. His faculties of observation should be
cultivated; he should be shown living examples. Let him see the drunkard
and what vice has led him to; show him also the good man, and set before
him high ideals. Teach him to take everything you say upon authority and
endeavor to be such that he may respect your authority as parents and
teachers.
Sex Education
At this time he should also be prepared to husband the
force which is now being awakened in him, and which will enable him to
generate his kind at the end of the second period of seven years. He
should not be allowed to gather that knowledge from polluted sources,
because the parents shirk the responsibility of telling him from a
mistaken sense of modesty. A flower may be taken as an object lesson,
whence all the children, from the smallest to the biggest, may receive the
most beautiful instruction in the form of a fairy tale. They may be taught
how flowers are like families without bothering at all with botanical
terms, so long as the parents have studied in the slightest degree a
little elementary botany. Show the children some flowers. Tell them: "Here is a flower family where there are all boys (a staminate flower), and here
is another flower where there are only girls (a pistilate flower). Here is
one where there are both boys and girls (a flower where there are both
stamen and pistils). Show them the pollen in the anthers. Tell them that
these little flower boys are just like boys in the human families; that
they are adventuresome and want to go out into the world to fight the
battle of life, while the girls (the pistils) stay at home. Show them the
bees with the pollen baskets on their legs, and tell them how the little
flower boys bestride those winged steeds, like the knights of old, and go
out into the world to seek the princess immured in the magic castle (the
ovule hidden in the pistil); how the pollen, the flower boy-knights, force
their way through the pistil and enter the ovule; then tell them how that
signifies that the knight and the princess are married, that they live
happy ever afterward and become the parents of many little flower boys and
girls. When they have fully grasped that, they will understand also the
generation in the animal and human kingdom, for there is no difference;
one is just as pure and chaste and holy as the other. And the little
children brought up in that way will always have a reverence for the
creative function that can be instilled in no better way. When a child
thus has been equipped, it is well fortified for the birth of the desire
body at the time of puberty.
Birth of the Desire Body
Children under fourteen are in a way still a part of their
parents, because in the thymus gland is stored an essence of the parental
blood which the child uses in manufacturing its own blood during the years
of childhood. The thymus gland of the infant is largest just before birth
and diminishes as time goes on. At about the fourteenth year the Ego is
ready to assert itself and is able to manufacture its own blood. It
becomes an "I"dentity.
Now is the time for parent and teacher to practice
tolerance and to feel sympathy for the growing youth who faces many
problems. If the child has learned to trust and love his elders, he will
now follow their advice and the hazards of growing up are not great.
At this time, when the individual desire body is born,
feelings and passions-are making themselves felt. The individualized mind
is not yet in evidence and nothing holds the desire nature in check. It is
easy at this period for the child to drift into undesirable habits which
may have disastrous results. It is true that many lessons are learned in
this way, but parents and teachers must stand ready with kind interest and
loving understanding.
Now is the time when the child should be taught to search
for himself; he should learn the value of careful investigation of
anything he wishes to judge. He should also be taught that "the more
fluidic he can keep his opinions, the better he will be able to examine
new facts and acquire new knowledge."
When the desires and the emotions are unleashed, the youth
enters upon the most dangerous period of its life, from fourteen to
twenty-one. At that time the desire body is rampant, and the mind has not
yet come to birth to act as a brake. Then it is well for the child who has
been brought up as here outlined, for its parents will then be a strength
and an anchor to it to tide it over that troublesome period until the time
when it is full born-the age of twenty- one, when the mind is born.